Copyright (c) 2009 Vin DiCarlo
Are you trapped in a feedback loop?
Understood/Affinity - I'm a neurotic nerdy loser like you. It can be really tough starting from nothing.
What I mean is, if you haven't been very successful with women in the past, it's really hard getting the ball rolling.
I've come to realize that a big part of success is momentum. It's like the snowball effect.
Success often is built on success, importantly when it comes to beliefs.
I used to have HORRIBLE beliefs when it came to women. And it's the thing that I see in every students that comes to me.
Bad beliefs don't just happen overnight.
What kind of beliefs do you have about women?
If you approach a woman without being conscious with your belief and what goes through your mind?
If you think things like "oh she'd never go for me," or "oh she's out of my league," then you have bad beliefs about women, or more accurately, YOURSELF.
You see, success with women isn't really about women, it's about YOU.
How you see yourself also affects how women see you. So if you have a bad belief, that means you have a poor self-image.
And it's that image that is projected to the woman.
The strange thing about beliefs is that they reinforce themselves. If you think women don't like you, then when you talk to women, you will come off insecure, and they REALLY WON'T LIKE YOU.
This strengthens what your belief is.
So how do you get out of this rut?
Well first you must understand how beliefs are formed. They usually don't come directly from what they are about.
Let me explain. Your bad beliefs about how women perceive you didn't BEGIN with actual women.
Your ideas about women most likely came from the other boys in class, or from the culture or your parents.
You were taught that women don't like getting intimate, and that women require some elusive trait in order to like a guy.
Now we get "bad" messages all the time. It's just a fact of life that many people out there don't want the best for you.
But the problem with your social/dating beliefs is that they won't go away - they'll only get worse, unless you short-circuit the whole process.
You don't need to have any specific belief in order to put it into action. You can have bad beliefs and still have success.
Ultimately, what will happen is that you will form new mental habits, which are the same as beliefs.
There are few men that are naturally good with women and far between, but there is just one thing in common:
They have POWERFUL beliefs about women. They assume that women are attracted to them. They believe that women like getting in bed. They believe that they deserve the best women out there.
If you're a good and intelligent guy, then there's no reason why you shouldn't have lots of options in the dating.
The most attractive women shouldn't be off limits to you.
Men who were lucky enough to start good feedback loops at a young age don't necessarily deserve the best women. They are just lucky.
You should have the same opportunities.
I know I had to make that opportunity for myself, and it was HARD.
You can be you, AND have great women in your life.
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