How long has your husband been ignoring you? Has it been months, years, or even decades? I hope it is not that long, because that is really not a way that two people should go through their lives. If it has been that long, think back to a time before your husband started ignoring you. What was different in your marriage? I'm not saying that the change which occurred is the cause of your problems, but it could have been the start of some behavior that would have caused your husband to retreat back into his protective shell where he can no longer be damaged.
Did your husband start ignoring you soon after you had children? Were you the the one that stayed home with the kids after they were born? Then it is more than likely that you were craving for adult conversation by the time your man walked through the door. You were so starving for it that the minute the door handle turned, you jumped up and started telling him everything that happened in your day. Meanwhile, your husband just wanted 15 to 30 minutes to unwind and switch from work mode to home mode after work.
As you were talking your husband's ear off, he was ignoring you. Just going about his business of taking the coat off, putting his briefcase away, and opening the mail. I'm sure you can see where this is going now. He was switching from work to home mode because he's not good at multitasking and you were talking to him about stuff that happened at home. He can't process what you are saying because his mind hasn't switched yet so he's ignoring you; then you get mad because it appears that your husband doesn't care about what happened during your day. A mean and nasty fight occurs and your husband retreats just a little into his shell.
After a couple of months of this occurring, your husband starts to think just plain ignoring you is better that fighting with you, so he never comes out of his shell. You try to ask him what's wrong, he states nothing because he doesn't want to fight. The more you ask, the further he retreats. It's a never ending cycle unless one or both of you chooses to change it.
How can the wounds be mended and how can you get your
ignoring husband back to the way he was? The answers are different for every couple, but the biggest step is to learn the difference between the way men and women communicate. Marriage couselling is expensive, but I have found a lot of help with the 7 free tips to a better marriage that I found at
marriagemap.info.
