So you're trying to survive a breakup, and you're not doing so well. Actually, it can feel like the toughest thing in the world. But did you know that millions of couples reconcile every day, even after massive relationship crises like cheating? No matter how hopeless you feel, there is a chance you can get back with your ex. You just need a proven method: get back together? It can happen!
Most couples who end up back together do it by total accident. Not that they didn't mean to -- it's that they just happened to say and do the right things at the right time by chance. That's what happened in my case.
No Plan...A Long Wait
When we split up, I thought my life was over. I had no idea how I was going to manage on my own. Not only was I suddenly single, but I had to move to a whole new place -- and I barely had any of my own stuff.
I still loved him. And even though he was livid with me and insisted our relationship was over, I sensed that he still loved me too. But no matter what I did...calling, showing up, leaving messages...he just seemed to get more distant. The harder I tried, the worse it got. I was a complete mess.
But, two long years later, we got back together. And we've been back together for over five years now (and we're happier than we've ever been). So what worked? Well, like I said before, it was purely accidental. If I'd known there was an actual proven strategy I could have followed, we would have been back together much, much sooner.
My Big Mistakes
1. Desperate Much?
Calling, emailing, showing up...it was the total wrong thing to do. According to my husband, it made me look desperate. And it made him feel totally in control of the situation. Because he was angry with me, my desperation made him feel like he could punish me...and oh, he did.
2. I Had A Life Here, Somewhere...
For months and months after the split, all I did was think about him and how to get him back. I forgot one important thing...I had a life too, and it was sitting there waiting for me to pay attention to it. I was too busy obsessing about my ex to notice.
3. My Mouth Runneth Over
I drove my friends insane. All I did was talk about my ex and our breakup. I analyzed, worried, cried...and eventually, my friends stopped calling. I was isolating myself.
None of this was healing my broken heart, or getting my husband back. It was doing the opposite. Something had to give.
Getting A Clue (Finally)
1. Acceptance
Finally, I came to terms with the fact that our relationship was over...and I stopped reaching out him. It just about killed me, but I did it. Sometimes, I had to bite my fingers to stop myself from picking up the phone. But it had an interesting effect. According to my husband, when I stopped calling, he started thinking about me and what I was up to...and why I wasn't calling anymore.
2. All About Me
I dragged my butt out of bed and started doing things again. At first, it was just to keep busy so I didn't go crazy. I started up with a hobby that I hadn't done in years, one that got me out of the house and around other new people. And my husband told me that word got back to him about this through mutual friends...and he found himself wondering about it. What was I doing? Who was I meeting? Was I...gasp...moving on?
3. Hush Up
I stopped torturing my friends with my relationship problems, and they started wanting to hang out with me again. And suddenly, I noticed that I could go 5 minutes without thinking about him...then 10...then a whole hour...
Finally, It Happened
While I was surviving a breakup pretty well, my husband was suddenly in my shoes! Once I stopped playing the desperate ex, he started regaining interest. He started calling me for a change. Occasional chats turned into a casual 'date', and finally one day he told me that he wanted to try again...and we've been back together ever since.
Like I said, this took 2 long years to happen. Why? Because everything I did, I did by accident. If I had known then what I know now, I would have changed my tactics immediately...and been back together with my ex fast.
Even though it seems impossible, you can repair your relationship -- even if it's been over a year. You don't have to live with a broken heart forever. I managed to do it by accident because little did I know, there is a proven method: get back together smarter, faster and easier than I did by checking out the video at http://www.secondchanceatlove.info. It tells you what you can do, today, to take the first step in getting back together with your ex and healing your relationship.
