For some, successful dating is a mystery. Think of, "How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days" and you'll get the gist. There are some major relationship mistakes people – especially women – make that hinder the chances of a successful dating relationship. Five of these can be pretty easy to rectify, so you can stop making them and start heading down the road the right direction.
Five No-No's of Successful Dating
Everyone knows women (and men) who are constantly going from one relationship to the next. For some, this is a choice. Others have no idea what hit them when the "the one" dumps them. Whether you're a friend of one of those people, who don't know what's going on, or one of those people, it's time to backtrack and figure out the keys to
successful dating by exploring the not-so-successful dating.
Some of the top five mistakes people make in dating relationships include:
1. Moving too fast: If you meet a guy or a girl one day and are moving your things in the next, it's a bad thing. You can't call every day at this stage. And you definitely can't make up a photo album of him and your future children.
Instead, go on dates. Get to know one another. Spend time doing things that seem silly but really give you the opportunity to be together. If you want successful dating, you need to get to know the person you're dating.
2. Prying or being too nosy: Don't go through his medicine cabinet. Don't go through her purse. Ask what's wrong, but don't keep bringing it up if the other person doesn't want to answer.
Assume that if they have something to tell you, they will. If it becomes a problem, you can drop them. Don't ask, "What are you thinking?" over and over. If there's a problem, ask about it, otherwise, move on. The intimacy comes later.
3. Dominating the conversation, the TV and the plans: If you're the only one talking, it's your turn to shut up and listen. If you watch TV and you always watch your shows, either leave the living room, or ask what the other person wants to watch. Don't plan every date.
Expect the other person to have input and ideas.
Successful dating is a partnership. If you want yours to work, both of you need to participate.
4. Not acting your age: Whether you're 21, 30 or 42, when you're dating, you need to act the age you are. Don't act like a teen or a child.
Act like a grown-up. Maturity is attractive.
5. Not meeting the other person's expectations: This can have to do with a lot of things.
Be yourself. From the beginning of a relationship, it's important that you are who you are and that you embrace it. Don't be someone you're not. There's no point. Don't tell someone you're an artist when you're a math teacher. And don't tell someone you're a doctor when you're a dog walker. The truth will come out eventually, and so will all chances of successful dating in that relationship.
Successful dating is difficult. And there are some things you do that make it even more difficult. Instead of sabotaging your relationship from the beginning, start yourself up for
successful dating.
