Working out how to get your ex boyfriend back is usually, for most people a bit of a ‘hit and miss’ exercise. Not really surprising as none of us is given any real instruction on how to go about these things. In the ‘fix a break-up with boyfriend’ department our education is exactly NIL.
The first approach is to make it up as we go along. The less said about this plan, the better! Guesswork won’t do anything to repair the breakup with your boyfriend.
The second move, for most of us, is to go running to friends who are supportive and generally appear to be full of wisdom on the subject.
If you’ve done this, girl, you’re in BIG trouble. Think about it for a second – your friends, sympathetic though they may be, have no more idea than you on how to approach the problem!
Guess what? They’re making it up as they go along!
The simple reality is this….. to get your ex boyfriend back you need to find a proven plan and then……..wait for the punch line……..TAKE ACTION!
That’s it – no more, no less. Now, the proven plan:
Firstly – stay away from your ex boyfriend. For one thing this will keep you sane and allow you to think clearly – we hope.
It will also make your ex boyfriend think a bit. I know that’s an outrageous statement – but it’s true.
Staying away will also give you the space that you need to work out exactly what YOU need to get you through this angst filled period without continually being fixated on your ex boyfriend.
Spend more time with your family and friends, who you’ve probably been neglecting a little lately. Not for their invaluable advice, but for the love and support that they will undoubtedly give you. Accept it gratefully and use it to build your strength.
No doubt you are serious about your decision to get your ex boyfriend back, so, the last thing that you want to do is to disappear into isolation. When you’ve caring people around you it means you’re not moping around at home and feeling sorry for yourself about the breakup with your boyfriend.
Now, seeing as you’re spending quality time with your family and close friends, ask them what they thought were some of the things that led to the breakup with your boyfriend.
Notice I DON’T say “Ask them how to get your ex boyfriend back”!
I’m quite sure your ex boyfriend would have given you a few clues just prior to slamming the door on his way out.
I’m also quite sure that you have a few ideas of your own about what went pear shaped and why it did.
Sometimes, though, it takes an outsider looking in to get a real grip on what’s happening. You can bet your last block of chocolate that they won’t have said a word while you were together but now they’ll loosen up a bit.
You obviously want to get your ex boyfriend back so, listen to other people’s opinions – but don’t take them as gospel – treat them as observations that you can act on.
Your next move is a little trickier – you have to think for yourself.
You have now received all kinds of reasons for the breakup with your boyfriend from family and friends. These will range, no doubt from some very insightful observations to the completely bl**dy ridiculous! (These usually come from family members who ‘always knew she was too good for him’.)
Now the time has come for you to weigh up all these suggestions and discard the rubbish. The final decision is always yours!
I know, you started on this path definitely wanting to get your ex boyfriend back, but do you still feel that way?
You may have heard some ‘unpleasant truths’ from friends and family that have given you doubts.
Perhaps the time apart after the breakup with your boyfriend has allowed you to come to terms with the breakup and you no longer feel exactly the same as you did in the beginning.
Whatever your decision, make sure that it’s perfectly clear in your mind just what you want before you make the next move.
The next move will be to contact him and have a drama-free, emotion-free heart to heart talk. DON’T leap into bed – it’ll be fun – but futile.
The author has much more you can read, that will be helpful to you, at
Relationship-Breakup-Repair-Kit
Please feel free to slip along and take a look.
There’s plenty of parking out the back.
