If you have a crowd of fans looking for dating you, then you
do need to waste your time reading this article. But if not,
maybe you have something to learn from this article, which
provides some of these tips on what do and not to do on a
first date.
What to wear? Unless you have to go to the Monte Carlo Rose
Ball, you should not exaggerate. The Coco Chanel’s saying
"Take off something before going out" is till true. If you
have a dinner in a quiet place, do not overdo. Do not over
dress. If you like very short skirt, avoid sexy shirt. If
you are not used to high heels, there will be another time
to do some practice, but not at your first date. If you go
directly to your date from the office, without going home,
refresh yourself at the bathroom, which does not mean to use
deodorant and a good perfume!
Forget your former partners, this is your first date.
Talking about former partners at your first date is
irritating and depressing. Are you asking me why ? It
highlights a sad reality: you are obsessed with your past.
The person in front of you will get bored and you will miss
him. Instead, ask questions about what he likes to do, to
eat, to read. Look for common interests.
Do not need to lie to gain his trust. Do not lie on your
age. If you are 38 years old, do not say you are 28. If you
are a PA, do not say you are an executive. It will be not
nice if after some time he realizes that you lied, you will
lose his trust. Some other tips, do not discuss about
political, economic topics, of the current crisis and your
problems at work. Do not talk about diseases. This is a
quite sad period, and people are looking for happiness and
fun. So enjoy your date and have fun.
Talk about you but also listen about him. If the person
sitting at the table with you is dating you, it means he
wants to know you better, know more about your interests,
ideas, and your personality. He does not want to know about
something he already knows quite well, such as the recent
trends of the stock market. He does not want to know about
the love relationships of your colleagues, he wants to know
about you. But do not exaggerate, spend time also to listen
about you and show interest, ask some questions.
Do not drink too much. At your first date, you should not
drink too much. This does not mean you can drink a nice
glass of good wine, but you should not get to the point that
you forget the name of the person sitting at the table with
you. If you do not drink alcohol, this is not the time to
start to do so. You can also have fun and enjoy your date
without drinking.
Forget your blackberry or your cell phone. Your cell phone
rings, what to do? Answer but do not spend all evening
talking at the phone. If your mother calls you, tell her to
call you later. If your blackberry receives a message? In
this case, it is better to not read it, usually emails and
sms are not urgent, and you can read them later.
Offer to pay the bill. Even if the man should pay, there is
nothing wrong if she tries to offer. But your gesture should
be spontaneous and you should not show that you are paying
because he does not want to or even worse because he forgot
his wallet at home.
Do not go to his apartment at the first date. The hunting
instinct is predominant in all men. Moreover, his thoughts
supported the theory that men were thrilled off the
'chase' and were innately driven to hunt and kill. But we
did advocate that it was the 'chase” which was more
pleasurable when measured against the kill. So you should
let him chase you but do not kill at the first attempt.
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