It is only normal that you will be overwhelmed with loneliness after a break up. Coping with loneliness is a bit more difficult. It is all part of the process of getting over a break up. Also a part of you was inside that relationship so you obviously miss that and mourn it too. It represents a lost happiness and that is reason to be sad.
Let us have a look at the two main processes in getting over a break up. First you have to put the lid on it for good and secondly you have to start a new life. The psychologists call the first part of this process a 'closure'. It is like going out of business. There will be boxes to be packed and the shop will be closed up for good and sold.
Make sure you know that there is no way of saving this relationship. You have had a definite negative response to any attempts to getting back together so the closure has to be done now without delay. If there are ends to be tidied up, then healing will be difficult. Closing the shop or the relationship means getting rid of all his possessions which still happen to be at your place. That means any books, clothes or a toothbrush have to be binned or if they are valuable, they have to be given back. That is a good chance too for you to pick up any valuable items that you have left at his place. Much better to do it all in the one day .
If there are any financial things outstanding, settle them as soon as you can. Now that you are closing, you will want only the minimal contact so that you can tidy up all the odds and ends. Any contact is not going to help the healing process.
Another great way of tying up the relationship and closing it down is to write a letter to him and share all your feelings, emotions, sadness. The important thing is NOT to post it but to burn it and watch it burn right to the end. This helps you to heal and is therapeutic in getting over the break up. Don't stay in mourning too long because you have to start again and the sooner you start, the sooner you will find a new partner. Reconnect with old friends, find new friends through new activities and hobbies. This is a great way of helping you to forget. You cannot forget completely but at least you are enjoying yourself. This is important to ward off depression which will always be lurking.
Start dating again and you will soon see that the healing process of getting over a break up will be somewhat easier and less painful. You will be much more confident that you are now in a strong position and have a great chance of building strong, happy and lasting relationship with a person who will love you and cherish you, as you deserve.
