Vanessa Million: Changing Millions of Lives, One Relationship at a Time.
Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. Leo Buscaglia
Five Tips For Healthy Relationships
Healthy relationships bring happiness and health to our homes, work place, communities, and planet. Research confirms that people with healthy loving relationships really do have more happiness, lower cortisol levels, healthier blood presser, and less stress. There are basic ways to make relationships healthy, even though each one is different…parents, siblings, spouse, girlfriends, boyfriends, professors, friend’s roommates, and classmates.
1. Be realistic. It’s not fair to expect someone to be everything we want them to be, love people for who they are, not who “you” want them to be; no one can be everything we might want him or her to be. From time to time people disappoint us, that does not mean they do not love us. Healthy relationships mean accepting people as they are and not mean trying to change them! Love them for their imperfections, it makes them unique.
2. Talk to each other frequently. I can not stress this enough: communication is essential in healthy relationships! If you are in a dating relationship, she will not know you love her if you do not talk to her daily. If you do not tell her you love her she will not know; Communication, Communication, Communication…
This means
• Make time. Really be there and listen, make eye contact.
• Authentically listen. Don’t plan what you are going to say next while you’re listening, just listen. Do not interrupt.
• Repeat, “Listen”
• Listen with your ears and your heart. Sometimes we have emotional messages to share and we weave it into our words.
• Ask lots of questions. Ask if you think you may have missed the point. Ask friendly (and appropriate!) questions. Ask for opinions. Show your interest. Open the communication door. Open your heart and soul to your relationship and watch them flourish.
• Share information. Research has shown that sharing information (NOT TRAUMA) particularly in the beginning of relationships helps to build bond and helps us feel close to each other. Be liberal in sharing yourself, focus on your success, but do not overwhelm others with too much too soon.
3. Be Accommodating. Most of us want to keep situations and relationship just the way we want them. It’s natural to feel anxious, even anxious or angry, when people or things change and we’re not ready for it. Healthy relationships mean change and growth are allowed! Let others have lots of breathing room, we all need to grow.
4. Take care of you. We all want our loved ones to care for us and like us. But please don’t forget to please yourself. Healthy relationships are mutual, win-win, and proactive!
5. Be dependable. If you make plans with someone, follow through. If you have an assignment deadline, meet it. If you take on a responsibility, complete it. Healthy relationships are trustworthy!
Relationships are the fabric of our society; they are worth your time and effort. Remember warm and loving communication is the key. Deep inside there is a deep wealth of knowledge and a soul committed to your Relationship :).
You’re a winner!
Let’s take action each and everyday to keep your relationship fresh and loving towards, I believe in you two.
Remember You’re Fabulous and Marvelous!
Love,
Your Coach,
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