Many people ask themselves this question. Do they listen to their heart or do they use their common sense. When you find yourself still in love with your ex and divided between two choices of which actions to take, it’s a nightmare. It’s hard to know the results and guess the outcome.
I will help you making up your mind. If you mean business when you say you want your ex boyfriend back, then it is very important that you stop listening to your heart and start using your mind instead. This is because your heart is hurt and will ask you to take actions that will erase all your chances of getting him back. Your heart will only tell you to go after your ex and convince him to come back.
Your heart will not take into consideration what your ex wants and what caused the break up. Your heart just understands that you love him dearly; you are missing him like hell and that you must chase him till he agrees. Well, my dear, this is all wrong! None of these will help you get him back.
Your mind in its place will ask you to be reasonable, logical and practical. It will say pull back for the time being as the situation is hot. Hold on yourself, your emotions and feelings. And of course let some time go by, allow the greatest healer heal some of the relationship’s sourness.
As you can see, the choices are yours. It is more reasonable to choose what your mind has to offer if you really want to win your ex boyfriend back. Therefore, in short, all you need to do is cut off all communications with your ex. It’s as simple as that.
So, don’t be desperate, needy and someone sticky. Allow your ex to miss you. Make him want you. Be unavailable to him. Be independent. Learn new things. Learn how to deal with your troubles by yourself. Find solutions for your problems yourself. Of course you can get help but try to be independent as much as you can.
You will see coping with your difficulties by your own without interrupting your ex for petty matters will make yourself a better person. And as you can deduce, to
get back your ex, you must be sensible, cool and of course patient. This implies listen to what your mind says and not your heart when it comes to
saving your relationship!
