The following tips can help you with the same training to focus more on what is right with your marriage and your life:
1.Take time each day to the list of things you are grateful for your life. Remember to include things that people often take for granted, such as three meals a day, a hot shower, heat, stove and refrigerator, running water, medical care, and friends.
2.Each day, remember the qualities of your spouse and your contributions to life. Think about what attracted you to your partner first. Think about how your spouse has to stretch and grow and how much you've learned from this experience.
3.Write in your newspaper on the positive qualities in yourself you want to grow and develop. These are the attitudes, beliefs and values that you want to emphasize and encourage them to take root, grow and prosper in your life.
4.Visit a library or bookstore and select reading material stimulating and inspirational tapes or CDs. Find time each day reading or listening to something that is positive, stimulating and inspiring. It is important to refill at the well of inspiration daily.
5.Spend less time with friends and family members who are negative and generate a feeling of depression and fatigue. There is a name for people who drain your positive energy. Instead, cultivate new friends who are positive, supportive and encouraging and highlight the best in you.
As you become more positive, you bring more positive energy in your interactions with your spouse. When this happens, surprising things can happen in your marriage. The sharp, thorny edge anger may begin to blur between you and your partner. New perspectives and interpretations of a situation may arise, and you may be more likely to find the middle ground of compromise.
