Most people have wondered, at one time or another, if their partner was cheating in the relationship. When men cheat there are often signs which are blatant and obvious to a careful observer, but perhaps seem a great deal more subtle and easily missed by the partner in the relationship. Today we'll explorer some of those signs and what they might mean. Keep in mind that (for the most part) any one or even a couple of these things taken on their own is probably not an indication that there is cheating going on, as there can be several reasons for most of the things on the list occurring. However, what you really need to look for are a combination of several of the following tips; several of these events or occurrences happening simultaneously (and often in a sustained way) is a good indication that there might be some infidelity going on.
Emotional
* Distance. When you are with your boyfriend, does he seem like he is far away? This can happen when you are alone and even when you are with friends and family. You might catch him staring off at nothing or find his attention wandering in the middle of a conversation (unless it's the football game that's got his attention). Other manifestations can include acting like he wishes you would just leave or becoming overly affectionate to an unusual extent (compensating for guilt).
* Tension. Little things that were not previously issues in the relationship seem to trigger huge battles. It's easier than usual to find yourself in the middle of a big fight and a lot harder than usual to make up afterwards. Look for strange behavior after a fight as well; especially if he leaves for a long time during one.
Intimate differences
* Sudden changes in the physical relationship are often a tell-tale sign. A loss of interest in your physical relationship could mean he's "getting it" elsewhere, but it could also be brought on by stress or a number of other factors.
* If he doesn't hug you or kiss you as long as he used to, that may also be a sign of cheating. Unlike previously, when you would hold each other for a while and you had fun just kissing, these small signs of affection will diminish or disappear, this may be due to someone else receiving his true affections.
Physical Details
Some of the most obvious signs of cheating are physical details -- things you can see. They are very easy to spot, but use caution because unless you are careful he may well catch on to what you are doing. That can be bad, especially if he's innocent!
* Did he suddenly seem to develop a sense of style, dress nicer than usual or perhaps start wearing a new cologne?
* Pay attention to his appearance. Is he noticeably ruffled when returning from somewhere, in ways that raise your suspicions? Look at his hair -- most men don't realize their hair has a habit of getting messed up slightly when they've been intimate with someone. You've probably noticed this yourself at some point.
* Be especially suspicious of a clean, well-groomed man in times when no shower should have taken place. One thing most guys do know is that a woman can smell another woman's perfume, shampoo, whatever after he's been with her.
If you can get over the natural denial, you should be able to trust your instincts to tell you if your man is cheating. There will literally be dozens of different (often obvious) clues to pick up on; most people are not really surprised when the affair is confirmed, because they really already knew. Just to say it one more time: it is important to remember any of the above behavior can mean a variety of things and not necessarily an affair. The last thing you want is to start a fight over unfounded suspicions, especially not if that fight actually leads to him cheating! Try not to accuse until you know for sure.
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