If you are going or have gone through a breakup, the chances are that you are so overwhelmed with grief, that you can barely think, sleep, or eat, especially if you still have feelings for your ex or soon to be ex. It creates a broken heart that is fragile by nature, and makes it that much more difficult to endure or process a relationship that has stopped growing. Believe me, breaking up with a long-term love is never easy, and making a decision to win back your ex will take time and effort.
Love is a potent emotional feeling that can bring a vast amount of joy, and happiness. So when a couple breakup, the emotional pain is very intense, that it's hard to bear. Unfortunately, couples tend to lose the spice in their relationship which made it exciting in the first place , and now after years of being together, the honeymoon has ended. When a breakup ensues, you question yourself, why did our relationship stop working? Was it my fault? Was my ex cheating on me? There may have been many reasons for your ex walking out on your life, and the signs were probably there, but you may not have recognized them or you may have ignored them altogether. But still, you are considering trying to win your ex back.
Now maybe you decided that you don't want to end your relationship, and you want to have a chance to try and win back your ex. You feel that it is really worth saving, but you don't have a clue how to do it. You need to have a solid plan, a course of action! Before you move forward, many things have to be considered. A relationship is not a one way street. Are you willing to change? Will your ex be willing to change? Remember your breakup has already happened or on the verge of happening, and what led to it has to change! Honestly speaking, now is the time to take a deep look at yourself, and if there are any flaws, are you willing to improve on them, and hopefully your ex will also be willing to do it. Remember, you are trying to stop a permanent breakup, or possible divorce, and you have to be willing to do your part!
There is another sticky matter that comes to mind, it's called loss of trust. If your ex has been cheating on you, and you are aware of it, do you have the capacity to forgive and forget? Remember, trust has been compromised! People are quick to jump and say yes they can! People will say anything to get their ex back. We are human, and being cheated on is a very hurtful thing. Many people will forget what they said and end up throwing it in the partner's face! Forgive and forget is exactly what it means, and you have to be ready to do it!
Are you still willing to win your ex back? Good! That's why you are here right? Your relationship is not any different than anybody else. Relationships breakup all the time. At some point, your relationship stopped growing for any number of reasons. It could be due to different views, personality differences, values, finances, emotional issues, conflicts of interest, or whatever. The bottom line is that it stopped growing! You have to nurture your relationship, build it up, and maintain it to keep it healthy. What you have to remember is that a relationship is a fragile bond in the first place.
I just gave you the making of a plan, and you didn't know it! It begins with you! If you are willing to work on yourself, and be totally honest, you have an extremely good chance to win back your ex! Getting back together will take some time, and it may not be easy, but it can be done! Both of you have to be willing to forgive past faults, and not make the same mistakes again! I believe that most relationships are worth saving. Do you remember when you fell in love, and how it felt? Recapture it! Nurture it! Watch it grow! Go win back your ex!
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http://hubpages.com/hub/A-Broken-Marriage-How-to-Save-A-Broken-Marriage
