This is another one of what I call HUSH WORDS which I recently did a write up on in my selfesteem site which seemed to have the most views. So I thought I would share it with my blog readers also.

ABUSE is definitely a hush word. Why is it we are already grown up when we finally address certain abuses we have experienced in life? Abuse knows no colour,age,gender or relationship.

It is a human action that can either create a stronger us or a weaker us. Which one are you? How many types of abuse are there? How have you battled abuse in your life? Are you still being abused? Do you know anyone that is being abused and want to help them but feel your hands are tied? Do you constantly find reason to fault yourself for the abuse you have endured or still are enduring? Do you know that there is help and hope for you? Is being happy not a good feeling?

Being here is a first step to many things to make a stronger , better , happier and more peaceful you.

Ladies please feel free to share your pains and fear.

We are all human and we are all in need of some type of support. From me to you , this site is my gift and maybe a small step to making you feel not so alone. Live life like you mean it and Keep Smiling. When I mentioned "here" I was referring to my site, www.womensselfesteem.com .

I have met so many women through my site and oter sites and they are all victims of some type of abuse. I have not even touched the many ways people are abused in the world.

Control is another form of abuse that a lot of women deal with in either their life as a child or their relationships. That is when their self-esteem gets totally put to the test. If one does not have a strong self-esteem they will allow others to control them.

Why, we ask do they do that. Well I beleive it is so much easier for some to allow it then to fight it. It is also a form of security for them. They can depend on that control to guide them otherwise they would have to be their own controller.

Food is a good example. a member on my site shared with us, that she realized that one of the reasons she kept on the great amount of weight she gained after her children, was so she had a reason to stay depressed. These are her words, "If I stay large I know it makes me unhappy so I can say I am unhappy because of my weight.....therefore if I lost weight I'd have to be happy and I really don't know how to do that."

As in any abuse, people have a hard time identifying with the fact that they are victims of abuse. It becomes a way of life that until they really notice that it is NOT a way of life, do they start to search for answers or help. Or they feel afraid to deal with life without the control that the abuse had over them.

How do we tell people that they are being abused, well we can just do that, "tell them", but chances are great that they would deny it and you possibly would lose a freind. It is like any addiction or self-destruction, one must see it for themselves in order to change it.

Not to encouraging is it. Nope , but thats why so many good doctors and therapists and just ordinary people like myself that genuinely care about others ,write books and blogs and spend many hours creating sites like, womensselfesteem.com. We do it because we know that just maybe someone out there will read our articles and will finally look at their life and do something to gain their respect back, before their self-esteem is so low down they can never possibly see getting it up again.

Abuse is an ugly word and I call it a HUSH WORD because noone talks about it.

People we need to bring all these words out in the open, there is so much help out here for you. And YES you can do it and YES you can live a good life without it. To beat any issue we fight inside ourselves or in our daily lives is a HUGE step to a better you, a stronger you, a much more beautiful you. When one is free they soar like a bird and nothing is more beautiful than a bird soaring through the sky feeling the wind in its wings, so people get free and soar as high as you can.

On that thought of beauty, I will leave you with your thoughts!

SOAR BABY SOAR UP TO THE HIGHEST SKY!!!
Dorothy Lafrinere
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