Ask yourself, is it better to describe an accomplishment or allude to it? Picture this, someone asks you what your greatest moment is. You tell them, and they are impressed. Picture also yourself saying, "I've done a few things..", and then letting your confidence and lack of eagerness in responding, communicate that you have absolutely nothing at stake and have nothing to prove - meaning you are operating at a higher level.

A woman asks, "so tell me about yourself?". The natural response many men have is to tell her about themselves. But what if you were to say, "can't think of anything at the moment...so what's the story behind that shiny bracelet?". Which do you think is more attractive? And how much more powerful would it be if you said stuff like this all the time? The subtle behaviors you would display would be more profound if this attitude came from inside of you - the attitude that you don't have to impress anyone. You are hinting that success or accomplishment for you is no longer a novelty, because it is such a regular occurance for you. This is all communicated by the way you talk and the way you vibe with others.

All the skills you learn, be it language patterns, NLP, or whatever other seduction tools, must eventually be "forgotten" as all outcome-based mindsets are let go of, and you take on the disinterested, relaxed mindframe of the guy who has nothing to prove, because he knows he's all that. The techniques and skills are simply a by-product of who he is. This is where true success lies.

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