When you’re at work, you get feedback if you’re doing a good job or not. Clients might tell you if you did well, or if they think you messed up. If you didn’t finish a project on time, you’ll hear about it. And if you landed a new client, obviously you did something right. But when you’re a mom, it’s not as easy to have the confidence that you are doing a good job as it is in the business world. There is no immediate feedback to know when you are doing something right or wrong. Don’t you wish you could have a quarterly review from your children and parenting experts alike to know what’s working and what’s not? When you have no feedback, and you have to wait 18 years to see the results of your parenting, it can be very difficult to project the confidence that you are taking the right actions.

Your kids won’t often tell you if you’re doing a good job as a mom. In fact, sometimes your confidence as a mom may get quite low because it is so hard to get realistic feedback at mothering. Motherhood is a difficult job, especially because there is no singular method of doing it. Every child, family, and mother is different, making each method of parenting different. So, how can you be confident as a mom, even through the tough times?

There is no easy answer to this question, the only thing that you can do is to trust your instincts and go with your gut. If your children are happy and healthy, you can be confident as a mom that you are doing something right. Tuning into your child’s needs and always having the antenna of availability on, so that your child knows that he/she can tell you what’s on their mind at any time will prove to be the best feedback you will ever get on your parenting. More importantly, project an air of confidence around your children. Sometimes we have to give “tough-love,� and in doing that, we can’t waiver as mothers. Projecting confidence will reassure our children that we are only doing what is in their best interest because we love them. When you project confidence to others, even your children, you will begin to feel that way.

Being confident as a mom is not an easy thing, particularly when you are balancing the demands of motherhood with the demands of a business. The important thing is to remain focused and consistent. As long as your children are doing well, you have every right to be confident.

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