NLP and Kids by Kay Gill
Kids are the most amazing creatures. Infact, they could teach us adults a few skills should we care to take a few moments to look deeper into their simple strategies of life.
What time do kids wake up?
How much energy do they have?
How excited do they get when trying new things?
Does this sound like a child you know?
So when as adults did we lose that same excitement and energy? When did we become more concerned about what others would think of us?
How would your day be different if you were to wake up with a big smile, jump out of bed and into the shower looking forward to the day ahead, instead of hearing the alarm clock and thinking ‘no not yet’, ‘just a little longer’ as you switch your alarm off into snooze mode. Half an hour later you finally manage to scramble out of bed tripping over your belongings left on the floor from last night; cursing the fact you are now seriously going to be late for work thanks to your snooze control. Knowing it’s going to be one of those greasy hair days, but it was worth the extra time in bed. You don’t have time for breakfast so you rush out with your make up bag in hand and head towards the train station.
What kind of day lies ahead?
When a child learns to walk how many times do they fall? Yet they still continue to keep trying until they have mastered the art of walking. So why do we as adults stop trying, admit failure after the first or second attempt? The language we use to justify to ourselves for quitting “I was not confident, I didn’t have the money, and who did I think I was anyway?”
Does this sound familiar?
What feelings do you get if you were asked to dance like John Travolta at your next business meeting? What pictures do you run in your head? Ask the same question to a child and hey presto they get a buzz rushing through them. They don’t bother with things like I can’t do that or I’m going to look silly.
Children don’t usually have words in their vocabulary, such as fear, anger, grudges, unhappy, tired, bored and failure etc
This is a learnt behaviour, by observing the adults around them, being told what to do and what not to do. They become culturally hypnotised about how to feel, what to feel and when to feel it.
As an adult when we see a child who is crying, naturally we want to make them stop.
Unconsciously we send them a message that crying is wrong, even when the crying is justified. The child thinks I must trust that big person it’s not okay to be emotional.
Think about the thoughts you have, the limiting beliefs that hold you back, how easily you can improve the quality of your life just by changing your mindset and acting more like a kid.
Using the skills of NLP you can eliminate negative thoughts and replace them with positive empowering alternatives. For more information visit www.innerfree.co.uk Specialists in Hypnotherapy and NLP in Birmingham and the West Midlands.
