Did you hear me? It’s HIS Ex. His problem. However, if there are children the Ex will be in his life forever, and there is nothing you can do about that. But there are ways you can cope.
To be totally honest, I avoid getting involved with men that have several children by several different women. That is guaranteed non-stop drama. But, don’t make it your drama.
A lot of men enjoy being in the middle of two women. In some sick way, they find it flattering and in their mind, it increases their worth.
Do not let him pit you against his Ex. When she calls and you answer the phone...? Very politely hand the phone to him, and leave the room. When the conversation is over, do not ask any questions. That is how you deal with his Ex...
The only time you need to get involved and make it your business? Is when it comes down to the care of his children. Ladies remember: if he doesn’t take responsibility for his Ex’s children? If and when you have his children, he will not take care of them either.
There are some issues where I draw the line: If my new “love interest” has an ex-wife that still runs his entire life…and he lets her? (We’re going to have a slight problem...)
Whenever we are together, she has a supposedly “life or death” crisis? No matter how much spousal support and child support he pays her, she still needs…or demands more money? And he has learned from the past, that if he doesn’t do everything she asks, she will make his life a living hell? I get off at the next stop! From my past experiences…? It doesn’t get any better.
Now…if he is willing to fight…go to court…get orders of protection…take the police to her house with his court issued visitation papers? I’m there! I can deal with his Ex! Working and fighting with him all the way. (I love a good fight!)
Always remember; make dealing with his Ex, his problem. Stay out of it, don’t let him or her try and make you jealous. That is just another form of manipulation. Please don’t fall for that old trick.
You may not have to deal with his Ex, but if there are children with the Ex, you will have to deal with them. Look out for them and make sure they are treated fairly and with love.
It was his past relationship...his choice of partners...don’t let him make you pay for it!
