If you are going to have a safe and successful experience with online dating, you must be able to spot the online dating red flags. Actually, I refer to them as the Blind As A Bat Red Flags! They are usually so obvious, but we are blinded by loneliness and refuse to see them.
1. Age: If someone tells you they are 40, stop and think...didn’t they tell you earlier that they have a set of twins that just turned 29? What are the odds they became parents to twins at the mature age of 11? Online Dating Red Flag...either they are lying, or extremely fertile!
2. Employment: They insist they are a successful business person, as a matter of fact; they are looking forward to an early retirement next year. As the relationship progresses, you find out they have never been on a job long enough to qualify for medical insurance and if it’s not too much of an inconvenience, could you loan them $5,000 to get some much needed dental work done. Red Flag...are they lying? Or, maybe they consider 8-12 weeks on a job, as steady employment.
3. Children: I am amazed at the people that lie about having or not having children! I’ve met men that swear they have 0 children, when in fact they actually have 7! Maybe they thought I was asking how many children they are supporting...0! And there are women that say they only have 1 child...but when the truth comes out, they have 5 children, by 5 different men. Perhaps they thought the question was, “how many children do you have per relationship?” Online dating Red Flag!
The issues really have little to do with a person’s age, employment status, or the number of children they have. The issue is, they are liars. And if a person is willing to lie to get your attention, they will continue to lie to keep your attention!
