We are so busy looking for “The One”! Sometimes it might be easier to determine who’s “Not The One”. I promise you...you will run into more “Not The One’s”!

Eventually, you will get very good at this!

He’s Not The One...

If he calls you collect from jail, asking you to bail him out.
And the charge is for spousal abuse! (You didn’t even know he was married!)

If he asks to borrow money to pay his child support.
If he can’t afford his child support this month, what makes you think he will be able to pay it next month? The only children you are responsible for...? Are yours and yours Only!

If he gets evicted and asks to move in with you.
Stop and think about it...what does this say about his lack of responsibility? If he is trying to lean on you this early in the relationship, it doesn’t get any better...

If you don’t trust him well enough to leave your purse alone with him.
If you can’t trust him with your personal property, how can you possibly trust him with your heart, love, feelings, just to name a few? The answer is: No, you can’t trust him!

If you aren’t comfortable leaving your children in his presence.
Why would you even dream of bringing a man into your life, that you can’t trust with your children? This is a major way of knowing he’s not the one! Please don’t close your eyes to this very important issue. A lot of women make this mistake, and lose their children for good. That is a very high price to pay for companionship. Don’t you think so?

If he raids your medicine chest. (Maybe he’s not looking for drugs...just nosy!)
First of all, even if he is just looking for a band aid, he should ask before going into any closed area of your house. Your medicine chest is an extremely personal area. He can find out a lot about you just from your medicine chest. Just think about it...suppose there are birth control pills...(“...is she currently sexually active?”) There are hormone pills...
(“...did she lie about her age? Is she taking these because she is going through menopause?”) There is denture adhesive...(“...does she wear dentures? I had no idea!”) See why it is an extremely personal area?

You don’t want to make “snap” judgments, but the sooner you determine “He’s Not The One”? The sooner you will be back on track...finding “The One”!