Once you have told your girlfriend that you will not put up with certain actions, it is imperative that you stand your ground. This won’t come as a shock, but girls are always testing you. If you tell her you don’t like something, then you don’t do anything about it, you failed her test.

I think 99.9% of the time it’s a bad idea to give ultimatums. Just make it a rule not to do it. But... if you ever do it you better know that you can back it up. One of the quickest ways to send a relationship on a downward spiral is to give an ultimatum and then back down.

I dated a girl once that would constantly talk to her ex. It bugged the crap out of me, so what did i do...you guessed it. I gave her an ultimatum. I told her that if she talked to him it was over! so what did she do? what every woman does, she tested me. she talked to him so I got pissed and yelled at her but I ended up being the one that apologized...haha, man I wish i knew then what I know now because from that point on, I could never tell her to do anything, she would just agree then go and do it anyway, and there id be ready to repeat the vicious cycle of getting mad and saying mean things but eventually apologizing.

What I should’ve done is, well besides not giving the ultimatum to begin with, I should’ve stood my ground and said "it makes me sad but maybe we are better off apart" and then broke up with her. The times that I have stood my ground, the result has always been them being the first to apologize. I’m not saying that you should never apologize but don’t make it a habit, and never do it when you are right. Beta people apologize when they are right, because they don’t want the alpha person to be mad at them.

I have dated some VERY confident and stubborn girls, for some reason i attract them. Most of them would rather lose a limb than say they were wrong. Me, on the other hand, hate to fight and I hate to have drama. So in all honesty I would always rather just apologize and get over an argument. But I learned the hard way that every time you give in when they are the ones that are being bratty, you just make them 100 times more determined to back you down the next time. Because they know if they pout, yell, cry long enough, you will give in and tell her she was right and you were wrong.

Now, once again, don’t take this to an extreme. Pick your battles and hold your ground. The little stuff shouldn’t even rise to the level of making you upset because you are in control and you know she will do anything to be with you.

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