"It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction." -- Pablo Picasso
Here's a fun one. Provocative persuasion. There are times when persuading on this level is the best route. I'm not suggesting in any way that you act inappropriately, especially in the workplace in these litigious times. There is a place for everything and persuading on the deep, base, core level of the need to reproduce, is primal and powerful.
When you hear the word seduction your mind probably thinks of sex or luring someone away from proper conduct or accepted mores. Another definition of seduction is to win over and attract. Sounds a lot like persuasion. We are literally enticing someone into our mindsets or desired outcomes.
A friend of mine told me that they flirt with everyone they come into contact with -- men, women, waitresses, mechanics, grandmas, grandpas, all ages, nationalities, shapes, and sizes. At first this struck me as incredibly weird but as I began to watch him, I noticed that what he called 'flirting' I recognized as being very charming. When I reframed his flirtatiousness as charm, I fully understood his reasoning.
Here's another way to view this: it's rapport with a twist.
Not everyone can pull this off and absolutely, there's a time and a place for everything. A caution for women: men are highly susceptible to flirtation and charm and very clear boundaries should be maintained at all times.
Another way to access this powerful motivator is to insert into your conversation words of a titillating nature. This is a circuitous way of stimulating these drives that will give sometimes vague, sometimes intense triggers of that core drive.
Phew. . . did you catch that? I was just giving an example and got a little carried away, but now you get the idea.
You can go too far with this one so be careful. People might think you're creepy if you do it too much, but there is great benefit in turning on the lights and bringing these things out into the open to expose how they can turn us into better persuaders.
I may not exactly admit to flirting with everyone but I will say that I do enjoy the process of charming as a way to persuade and, in general, a way to make people feel good.
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