Because parents have a lifetime of experiences, they can be wonderful guides for their children. Parents can help children understand how their behaviors today can affect their lives down the road.

However, as guides, parents can often give too much advice and not ask children enough about what they think and feel. What children experience mentally and emotionally when performing in school, sports, arts, play and hobbies can provide you with a wealth of information about what comes the most natural to them.

To learn from your children, you can ask them, "How did you feel during..? Why did you feel that way? Can you give me one example? What did you like the most? What did you not like?" Do not bombard your children with these questions all at once or directly after an experience. You should space out the questions over a period of time and expect short answers. Children get better at reflecting on their own experiences as they mature. So, you need to appreciate whatever answers you get and not ridicule them for giving you limited answers. Over time, they may improve in their ability to describe their experiences to you.

The more information you get from your children about their performances in different environments such as school, sports and the arts, the more you will discover the abilities and environments they enjoy. This information will give you greater insight into ways to nurture your children's talents, and help you be an effective advocate for their development in school, sports and the arts.


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