Trying relationships is one of those things that can be quite challenging. You start a relationship but it ends with a bang. May be you have been lied to, manipulated and punished. After this type of mistreatment, it requires a very strong soul to start yet another relationship. The loneliness of staying alone without a partner forces one to forget the pain, rejection, uncertainty and forge some trust to face another relationship which has no guarantee of success. Finally some people leave all these work of hooking up or coupling to a divine matchmaker. The bible says that the lord will hear you when you call but many are the times we opt to do the dating business our way but say silent prayers when we are hurt and desperate for love.

"Please God, i have been hurt enough times, take the bitterness away. Let the next girl be the one and i promise to wait as long as it takes." Does this sound familiar to you? This is a prayer for many people in time of desperation when people feel they have enough reason to give up on relationships and just wait on God. He does not come into your life uninvited. Once you make an invitation i can tell you he takes you seriously. Seven years on the wait and you still believe that it is God's wish that you remain single and celibate. People reason that if the divine matchmaker did not want them to wait they would have gotten any hand to hold or a shoulder to lean on.

These are common flaws in many people's mind. I was not alone. Some of us treat God like the divine matchmaker who has a soul mate destined for us somewhere. This is true but the big mistake that we do is to sit down passively and wait for a match to appear out of nowhere. This is putting our social lives on hold while waiting for the assigned match. This confuses many people especially if the person they meet is not of their expectation. A funny, charming and smart man who wears a polo shirt, mocks your sports team and hates mashed food might not have been your dream guy but what happens when he becomes your next boyfriend? You are so excited and happy that your lonely weekends are being compensated.

The trough of pain and rejection is not a good one. We all wallow in self pity when we see like God, our divine matchmaker who runs a never failing match-making service abandons out deals. This is a wrong type of thinking where we expect to be in a win-win type of a deal. We do not want to subject ourselves to any pain or risk involved in dating. It is a capital crime to expect to sit back and wait for great things to happen. If you want to succeed in relationships you have to venture without any selfish intentions and hoping for the best. There is nothing like a ready-made spouse. God loves it when we win it for ourselves. It is the tough kind of love from our divine matchmaker.

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