4 Ways You Can Get Over Your Need for Acceptance and Get on with Your Life
) Copyright 2005 Larry Bilotta
Imagine what your life would be like if you could just be
yourself, without thinking twice about what other people
think of you! Here are four quick tips that will help you get
over your need for acceptance. Make these four things a
part of your daily routine and you'll find that people will
judge you less and accept you more!
1. See Yourself as a Success
You're probably familiar with that little voice inside your
head that tells you you're never good enough. Instead of
letting that voice continuously judge what you didn't do right;
focus on an actual moment in your life that makes you feel
wonderful. This could be a moment at your wedding, the
birth of your first child or a great victory you achieved.
Picture it as if you were living it all over again. Right before
you think of this moment, say these words: !0You know what
this (say the bad feeling you are having right then) reminds
me of? It reminds me of the time.!1 Then remember or in
essence !0live out!1 your great moment. End the moment with
the words !0That's what this reminds me of.!1 This is exactly
what Olympic athletes have done for years to increase their
physical performance. They see it first in their imagination
and then they reach their goals. If you do the same, those
days of being held back by your need for acceptance will be
over!
2. Restore Your Self Confidence
The second key to getting over your need for acceptance is
self-confidence. Confidence is the result of how you see
yourself in your imagination. The way your nervous system
makes you feel is the direct result of what's going on in your
imagination. That's why when someone describes a great
meal; you begin to salivate even though there is no actual
food in reality. To your nervous system, this 'food' is more
real than actual food itself. Since that's the case, just think
what would happen if you imagined yourself being successful
and confident? When you see confidence in your
imagination, your nervous system !0believes!1 you are
confident which changes the vibes you give off. People will
treat you better because they can feel your success and want
to be around it. Tell yourself that you're a success on a daily
basis and you'll not only start seeing yourself in a different
light but you'll get over your need for acceptance...for good.
3. Find A Career That Truly Fits "The Real You"
This step may seem like it has no connection to the previous
steps, but it goes hand in hand with getting over your need
for acceptance. Since confidence is necessary to get over
your need for acceptance, an easy way to build your
confidence is to do what you truly were meant to do in life.
What are you passionate about? What have others told you
you're good at? To learn exactly how find a career that fits
you, there is no better book than What Color Is Your
Parachute? By Nelson Bolles. Just go to Amazon.com to
find it. Match your talents to your career and see your
confidence begin to increase every day!
4. What Makes YOU Happy?
Most people are not sure what happiness really is. Many say
that money would make them happy. But it's not money at
all. People don't want money! They want what money can
BUY. They remember that buying new things makes them
feel happy, but this is only one form of happiness. True
happiness comes when you can make a difference in the life
of another person and realize how much it meant to them.
Lending someone a helping hand not only brightens their
day, but you'll be able to reap the effects of, if only for a
brief moment, true happiness.
Now that you know how to get over your need for
acceptance by focusing on a positive memory instead of the
negative voice inside your head, you'll be able to give off the
vibes that ATTRACT people to YOU. Instead of wishing
and hoping for approval, you now know how to get over
your need for acceptance by giving people what they need; a
confident person who not only looks for the good in them,
but also shows them how to see it too.
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