If you don't have a good opener when you approach a woman, you are risking a lot on what you initially say. Will it:
1. Get her to talk to you
2. Make her want to converse with you?
Maybe what you say will get her to respond with a "Yes or no" answer. If that's the case, where do you go from there?
Maybe what you have to say will get her to explain something to you, but will it really engage her in conversation? Will she continue to talk to you so you can establish that "trust and comfort" foundation you'll need to get her information?
These are the factors you have to take into account when you go about meeting a woman. Here are some examples of openers you want to avoid:
"Do you know where X is?"
"Do I know you from somewhere?"
"That's a nice X you're wearing."
"Do you come here often?"
I can go ad nauseaum with these. But none of them help, as they aren't in the least bit interesting and have very little chance in generating a good reaction from her. And you won't know her any better, that's for sure.
Here's a good opener for you to "test out" this weekend or whenever you're going out next. When you see a girl you like and want to meet, walk up to her and ask:
"Hey, just curious, do you read the horoscope?"
See how this opener differs from the ones above? You're not asking her an ordinary question she hears a million times a day, and there's an intriguing element to it. Most women are interested in horoscopes and other new-agey stuff, so even if they DON'T read their horoscope, they may be interested in why you're asking the question.
If she says YES, it is easy to ask her what her sign is and what her horoscope is telling her. This is great because she will be giving you information about herself that you can use to your advantage in the conversation.
If she says NO, ask her if she's ever checked her horoscope before and then ask her what her sign is.
No matter what she says, always follow up with "Hmmm. That's interesting"
When she asks "Why?" say "Well, I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but you know what they say about Pisces (or Aries, or Scorpio, or whatever her sign is)?"
By now she'll be really interested. Follow up by saying "Pisces (Aries, etc.) women are the most sensual women out there."
Watch her reaction, and then follow up with a story to get the conversation flowing. Here's one I use:
"I know this because my ex girlfriend was a Pisces (Aries, whatever), and she was the most sensual woman you'll ever meet. We used to have so much fun together, doing all sorts of wild things, she was totally open to doing anything. I used to think it was just her, but every Pisces woman I've dated has always been really fun. What's the wildest thing you've ever done?"
See how that works? You set it up so that you present her with a role you want her to adopt (being fun and open to anything), and show it in a positive light. And even if she doesn't agree with your assessment of her sign, you're getting her to share with you what wild stuff she HAS done.
One thing leads to another, and you are talking with her!
Typically, you'll want to have three good openers to use one after another, all with follow-up stories to get the conversation flowing.
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