So you just overheard your man's buddies brainstorming the dreaded bachelor party?.ugh. There's nothing like the vision of a beer-goggled groom-to-be ogling scantily clad women named after inanimate objects that makes even the most grounded woman shudder in her stilettos. It's no wonder why the traditional bachelor party isn't high on a bride-to-be's list of exciting wedding-related milestones. Here's the reality: No, you can't throw a tantrum to halt the festivities, but you can take a few steps to make sure your guy's final send off doesn't leave you wanting to off your guy.
Here are five tips to help you deal with his bachelor party:
Plan Ahead
Try to talk your guy and his friends out of planning the bachelor party the night ? or weekend-before the wedding. An event well in advance of the big day will give the guys ample time to recover and ensure his bachelor party doesn't land on your list of final wedding worries
Two Can Play
Why should you sit home and knit while he's partying with his friends? You're saying goodbye to your single self too, you know. Even if your traditional
bachelorette party doesn't fall on the same night, make sure you're sufficiently distracted by your own good time to worry about his.
Go Co-Ed
Co-ed showers are fast becoming the norm; bachelor and bachelorette parties are following suit. This is a great idea, especially if you and your man share a close circle of male and female friends. Even if your co-ed party does get a little wild ? you'll both feel much more comfortable knowing that you're together - and can keep an eye on each other.
Talk it Over
Don't be afraid to express any of your concerns to your fiancé® You may find that your worries are unfounded. Believe it or not, modern bachelor parties don't always involve sweaty lap dances with buxom blondes named Barbi. Just as many consist of fishing, hiking and wine tasting. Your guy may even feel pressured by his buddies to partake in traditional debauchery, and he might welcome your dialogue to the contrary. Regardless ? remember that you cannot force him to forgo the party (he'll resent you if you try), so be open to listening and talking about his bachelor party plans.
Have a Little Faith
Even if your man's crew goes the traditional g-string route, most bachelor parties really are innocent fun. If your guy cares about you and loves you, he won't commit any transgressions. And if you find that you simply cannot trust him around a few scantily clad women ? you may need to investigate whether this guy is even worth marrying in the first place.
Remember ladies, his bachelor party is not the end of the world. And if he seems just a little starry eyed at the concept of a night in a strip club ? give him a little lap dance of your own, a surefire way to return his focus to you!
