Hey, it's your wingman Dean Cortez here with some more Tactical tips on turbo-charging your dating game.
When you think about
flirting with women and building a "connection," how do you picture it going in your mind?
Most guys think that
flirting with girls is about walking up, introducing yourself, and getting to know each other. You ask her questions, she asks you questions. You ask her about her background, and you tell her about yours. Just go with the flow, right?
Well, NOT if you want to get results. If you want to GUARANTEE that you get this girl's phone number and meet her again very soon ... or, bring her home TONIGHT (if the situation allows for it) ... you've got to get STRATEGIC with the way you converse with women. And, there are some important techniques to keep in mind when you learn how to flirt with girls.
Conversation is a TOOL that is going to get you where you want to go. But in order to use this tool correctly, you've got to learn how to apply it and MASTER it.
This means no more awkward silences, while you wonder what to say next ... or feeling phony because you're relying on some stupid "pickup routine" you learned from some so called guru (who probably has trouble getting laid himself).
As a Mack, when you're
flirting with women you're going to CONTROL the conversation and guide it along.
You're not just talking aimlessly, going with the flow, chatting about whatever topic she brings up. There is going to be a definite PURPOSE to every conversation you initiate with a woman, and a RESULT you are steering it towards.
See, when a Mack is
flirting with girls, it SEEMS like a normal conversation...on the surface. The woman doesn't suspect that he's trying to get in her pants. He just seems like a cool guy who has interesting things to say.
But under the surface, he is executing a game plan. He is building a RAPID CONNECTION with her. He makes her feel a level of COMFORT with him that the average guy couldn't create, even after spending hours with her! This material absolutely works. When I'm out to
flirt with girls, and I meet a girl and converse for ten minutes with her, I create a sense of COMFORT and FAMILIARITY that most guys would never get after spending two hours on a date with her.
A buddy of mine, Greg, has become excellent at this. If you see Greg at a bar
flirting with girls, they'll be laughing, touching each other's arms, looking like a couple who've known each other for a long time. But usually, it's a girl that Greg met only MINUTES ago!
That's why so many guys around the world are huge fans of Mack Tactics. With this program, you cut through all the crap, all the awkwardness and phoniness, and you learn how to flirt with girls and create a REAL connection.
Learning the secrets of
flirting with women never felt so easy. You're also going to learn how to slip through the BARRIERS that women put up. These are the natural "female defense mechanism" that they use to screen out all the lame guys. In the Mack Tactics book we go into a lot of detail about this. You'll learn ALL of the steps that go into making a successful approach, building a bond, establishing comfort and rapport, and leading the encounter towards "closing the deal."
For now, let's run down a few key pointers:
- Keep the spotlight on her. Women really appreciate a guy who listens and gives thoughtful responses. The more details she shares about herself, the stronger the connection grows. (The bottom line is, you need to know how to ask her the right questions. Phrasing is everything.)
- Cut through the small talk and take it to a deeper level. When you're flirting with women, don't spend much time talking about jobs and other "serious" stuff. Mention the things you are most passionate about, and get her to share hers. (Get her to reveal a goal or a dream of hers, and be encouraging and supportive, and you're really in the door ... )
- If you have a lot of passion for your work, that's awesome. But don't dwell on the present. Talk about future possibilities.??And remember, if you're not yet where you want to be, in terms of money and success, you can generate a lot of curiousity and attraction from women if you show AMBITION and PASSION.
A guy who projects these two qualities makes her feel, "this guy's life is on an exciting, positive track. It would be cool to be a part of it." You see, you are making her curious about joining YOUR world, instead of trying to earn acceptance into HERS.
- Also, when you're flirting with girls, maintain a sense of mystery. During the initial conversation, it's best to leave questions about yourself unanswered.
Stimulate her curiosity.
Here are some examples...
Which sounds better? "I work as a waiter at a restaurant." Or, "I work in the restaurant industry. Right now I'm learning all I can about the business, because a few years from now I plan on opening my own place. What about you? I get the? sense you're an ambitious person, is there a goal you're working towards right now?" (Here, you demonstrated ambition and passion, then you turned the spotlight back onto her.)
Which sounds better?
"I'm unemployed at the moment..." Or, "I'm checking out a number of different business opportunities right now, I like to stay busy. What about you, how do you spend your days when you're not working?"
Or, you might have achieved some success in your career. In this case, don't boast about it or go into detail. Just ALLUDE to the fact that you're a sharp, successful guy with even bigger things on the horizon. "Let's just say I'm good at what I do and I'm very well compensated. The hours are long, but I love it... and I'm learning so much right now that I'm looking into launching my own business. Have you ever thought about starting your own business?"
When you're
flirting with girls and carrying on conversations, any negative can be spun into a positive, and any positive can be phrased so that it BUILDS YOU UP in her eyes.
Remember, the key to flirting with women is understanding how to MANAGE and CONTROL conversations so that they lead to the results you want. Read the Mack Tactics book to learn the complete arsenal of techniques for effective flirting, conversation and dating.
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
