For most women, it's one of life's mysteries why men break-up with them even when everything
seems to go well. They don't get a man's way of being and just how difficult it is for him to settle down because of his own nature. So they do nothing to lead him in "the right direction". They don't know how to do this and further more, they're not even aware that they don't know. In fact, they do a lot of things that are counterproductive without even realizing it: pushing too hard, acting frustrated out of the blue, displaying negative feelings for him etc.
Here's a fact for you to consider:
for every effect, there is a cause. If you're not getting the outcome that you want to get(the effect), you're not doing the things that work(the cause that creates the effect). Isn't that obvious? Well, for most women it's not, because they do what they think it works instead of what actually works. So their strategies of attracting, seducing and keeping a real man in a long-term relationship are not based on
tested knowledge, but on untruths that she learned as she grow up, from other people who didn't have a clue themselves.
And, surprise, surprise, they get a huge opportunity to marry their Mr. Right later in life and they screw it up because they don't know what to do to make him want to settle down. So they end up dumped after a loving relationship that seemed to go well and now they're heartbroken because they missed this rare opportunity.
Now what do you do? There are actually two things that you must do when you find yourself in this unfortunate position. First, you must find a way to get over this break-up in a way that doesn't leave you with the feeling that from now on you'll have to be cold to every man who's trying to get to know you. And second, you must engage in a process of learning the lost arts of letting go, attraction, seduction, influence and reading people, that will turn you into a master of your own love life.
Just like Brian Tracy said, "the best way to predict your future is to create it yourself". Why would you play trial and error with your own love life, when everything you need to know is available for you to learn? There are many areas in life where it's better and even fun to learn from your own mistakes. However, I don't think that you should leave your love life to chance.
What if a surgeon would leave his patient's life to chance, for the sake of learning from his own mistakes? Can you imagine him feeling good while saying "well, I've lost this one, but I sure learned a valuable lesson." ? When it comes to things that are very important to us, like your love life, it's surely not an interesting thing to lose the possibility of being with someone you're in love with for the rest of your life and to gain a valuable lesson in exchange, no matter how valuable it is. It's just not what you probably want.
