http://www.articlealley.com en-us editorial@articlealley.com When your kids arrive home after a weekend with their other parent, it's unkind to submit them to a Q&A session. They are so uncomfortable when they know that you no longer love their daddy or mommy. They still love them. They don't understand why you ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_686634_27.html 12th November 2008 If you are divorced, it's very wise to create a Parenting Plan so that all the important people in your children's lives are aware of all they might need to know. I'm going to suggest a list of topics to be considered here and then leave it up to your ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_685179_27.html 11th November 2008 Who you were at age sixteen is a very different you who wants to begin dating again after your divorce. It's not for me to examine your motivation. I'd like to simply share what my life lessons have taught me so that maybe some of them will help you. ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_680958_27.html 03rd November 2008 Christmas and Thanksgiving are getting closer. If you're a divorced parent and this is your first time dealing with the split of time with each parent, it can be very unsettling for all who are involved - both you, your children, their other parent and th... http://www.articlealley.com/article_678943_27.html 30th October 2008 When memories about the joy of your wedding day comes crashing down on the day your spouse says "I want a divorce," you enter into a cycle of abandonment, fear, anger, and loss. Grief, anxiety, sorrow, guilt, denial and depression all come crashing down ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_678169_27.html 30th October 2008 There simply isn't a way to embrace the idea that divorce is just great fun because it isn't. It's a horribly painful experience to go through. No one in their right mind would want to go through this experience and would do all in our power to avoid it.... http://www.articlealley.com/article_672946_27.html 23rd October 2008 You don't have to go very far to find a friend or family member who is divorced and struggling financially. Once in a while, this stretching financially landed in my lap too. I know several divorced women who have managed to save money on small clerical... http://www.articlealley.com/article_669286_27.html 20th October 2008 Getting a good education is critically important for your child. What they learn is not nearly as important as the process they go through while learning. In the process, they learn discipline, mental maturity, that improving feels good, that there is a... http://www.articlealley.com/article_666614_27.html 15th October 2008 Here's a chilling fact for you: the divorce rates for second marriages are higher than those for first marriages. What, you need more pain? surely once was enough? We think that using a first divorce as a learning tool is advisable and here are some he... http://www.articlealley.com/article_659857_27.html 08th October 2008 It's such a challenge, single parenting. You're all alone out there and doing the work of you and your ex. It's just not easy. Your ex, meanwhile, looks like she's enjoying the real life: she's only got the kids for a while on the weekends; doesn't ha... http://www.articlealley.com/article_655691_27.html 06th October 2008 One of my most painful experiences was going through a divorce. It brought with it a huge pile of self-doubt. I wondered if I had any goodness left. I wondered if I'd ever trust another again. I felt overwhelmed with the tasks I saw in my future. I wa... http://www.articlealley.com/article_646876_27.html 24th September 2008 What makes us who we are? Is it biological or environmental? These are questions that are very often debated. Even if you feel that you are on one side or the other of this debate, it's pretty safe to say that your parents had something to do with it. ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_614428_27.html 02nd September 2008 A lot of "things property" get bought during a marriage. You just know that certain purchases will make the house look great, or be a boost to your retirement. Before you know it, an empty apartment is stuffed full. If a divorce rears it's ugly head on... http://www.articlealley.com/article_612703_27.html 01st September 2008 Children are supposed to radiate back to their parents the love their parents shine on to them. When there's a divorce involved, the kids are unaware of all the details that single parent has to be concerned with. All they know is that their mommy or dad... http://www.articlealley.com/article_607836_27.html 22nd August 2008 When you are a divorced parent, you've got your hands quite full. There never seems to be enough time in the day to get everything done, and your kids can fire questions at you more rapidly than a cherry-spitting contest. Arguments over dinner and homew... http://www.articlealley.com/article_607142_27.html 22nd August 2008 Divorce is a bit like dying. It is the dying of a marriage. That might sound too abrupt, but it is true. When you are served with divorce papers, when you find out he cheated, when he says he doesn't love you anymore, it all starts here. The dying begi... http://www.articlealley.com/article_596763_27.html 13th August 2008 If you're a divorced parent, you know better than even I do how busy your days can be with all the things on your To-Do list, answering your kids questions, hauling them around to their activities, being sure their homework gets done. There are always ar... http://www.articlealley.com/article_594119_27.html 12th August 2008 Our own wounded emotions caused by divorce are most harmful if they reach our children. One of the most sensitive areas where this can happen is for our children to hear us talking down about their other parent. They should not be made to hear their othe... http://www.articlealley.com/article_579731_27.html 18th July 2008 You simply cannot avoid or weasel out of one of the stickiest difficulties caused by divorce - you've got to keep interfacing with your ex to share custody with them. Divorce hurts. It is your natural inclination to move away from the hurt that divorc... http://www.articlealley.com/article_574501_27.html 11th July 2008 Have you heard the word "trigger" used to mean that someone has done something that upsets you? Ever been triggered by something your kids do? As parents, we have lots of things that trigger us, but when we're divorced, being triggered by our kids seems ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_569353_27.html 03rd July 2008 When I was thirteen years old, my moral foundation was tested when my best friend called me all excited and said to come over to his house. He lived in an old two-story house with a big attic that you could walk in. He had been in the attic and found an... http://www.articlealley.com/article_565792_27.html 27th June 2008 Did you suffer when you had to listen to critical words about your former spouse from your friends or from your parents? Were you just a bit bruised listen to their criticisms? Did you want to run away from those hurt-filled words? These are the feel... http://www.articlealley.com/article_563018_27.html 25th June 2008 Deciding who gets custody of the kids is one of the most important decisions in your divorce. Each of you is thinking "I get the kids!" Well, even if you do get sole custody, they're going to be staying with their other parent some of the time, so you n... http://www.articlealley.com/article_557623_27.html 18th June 2008 Let's tell ourselves the truth. If you're divorced, you have broken a big promise to your kids - that they'd have a two-parent life. Kids need to know that your promises to them will be kept, and yet this divorce was unavoidable, and maybe for reasons t... http://www.articlealley.com/article_553659_27.html 10th June 2008 Being a divorced parent can initially be a scary experience. You've just been emotionally slammed. The partner that you made a life time commitment to has fled the scene, and you are now scratching your head and feeling overwhelmed with dozens of questi... http://www.articlealley.com/article_550777_27.html 04th June 2008 Are you one of those people who spend your present dwelling on the past? The past is becoming too important to you. You're avoiding the present, emphasizing past failures, indulge in guilt. None of this living with past hurts or what you perceive to be... http://www.articlealley.com/article_548929_24.html 29th May 2008 When you go through the painful divorce experience, sometimes revenge runs rampant inside your mind, doesn't it? You certainly don't like what's happened to you. You want to blame someone because certainly you are faultless and blame free. You wouldn't... http://www.articlealley.com/article_542315_27.html 20th May 2008 Guilt hits us all, but it REALLY hits the divorced-with-children segment. It's such a wasted emotion too, and we decided to address it so that your guilt doesn't run you right into a second divorce. Those statistics are already high enough. We sincerel... http://www.articlealley.com/article_539560_27.html 19th May 2008 Blame. We all do it. We blame others for things that they deserve to be blamed for and things that they probably don't deserve. Placing blame seems to be a technique that we learn very early on. When you think of children even as young as two or three... http://www.articlealley.com/article_529269_27.html 06th May 2008 All divorced parents who are still walking on this earth find that going through a divorce stirs up emotions inside of them that prevents them from keeping their cool. Life gets filled with stress; you become exhausted, or irritated. It's really a challe... http://www.articlealley.com/article_528583_27.html 01st May 2008 There are many reasons that people get divorced. It could be there is abuse, lying, they "fell out of love" or my favorite, adultery. If you are reading this then you probably have been cheated on. It may be the main cause of the break up of your marri... http://www.articlealley.com/article_523665_27.html 26th April 2008 I have written several articles for you in which I discuss how important is for you to take time away from your kids just for yourself. I know that because you are divorced, you have learned that you have a much stronger need to rely on the help from fri... http://www.articlealley.com/article_521706_27.html 25th April 2008 When you become a parent, you are privy to a phenomenal blessing - the creation of happy, healthy, and successful children. But you cannot accomplish this unless you yourself are well grounded, because this grounding is what makes your efforts to be ther... http://www.articlealley.com/article_520100_27.html 18th April 2008 Anytime we have disagreements with other people, it is our instinct as human beings to have someone on our "side." When you get divorced or are getting divorced, it is very tempting to talk with friends and family about who was "right" or "wrong" or who ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_515340_27.html 10th April 2008 Divorce can be a time of great challenge. Because of all the emotions it stirs up, it's a lot like a fast stir of vegetable soup: all the veggies come up from the bottom and swirl helter skelter in the broth, round and round the whirlpool you've created... http://www.articlealley.com/article_514439_27.html 09th April 2008 The grieving process after divorce might be painful, but everyone goes through it. After all, your hoped-for and dreamed-of marriage is dead. It is natural to grieve. and once you complete those steps, it might be the time to think of dating again to se... http://www.articlealley.com/article_511309_27.html 07th April 2008 Nobody gets into life without a family. At a minimum, one mom and one dad are requisite. If you got folks who loved and supported you, that's your lot in life. If you got folks who did not love and support you, that's your lot in life. God is not unlov... http://www.articlealley.com/article_508265_27.html 04th April 2008 There isn't an individual alive today who does not want happiness. But how do you get there from "I'm divorced and I'm not happy?" I know you've got a picture in your mind and I know that you are trying to get that. If that picture looks like Ozzie and... http://www.articlealley.com/article_504167_27.html 02nd April 2008 In our modern times, divorce is more common than not although the old sense of blame and letdown still hits the divorcee hard. Pressure from religious organizations, their family, and from their neighbors and friends is still stressful. It hits you hard... http://www.articlealley.com/article_502656_27.html 01st April 2008 You never saw it coming, your divorce. It screamed out of the blue and bashed you about the shoulders. You were astonished that it happened to you despite your very best plans for a wonderful life. Someone's got to pay the price for your distress. 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We knew that our parents were not perfect and we knew we could surely improve on how they did things... http://www.articlealley.com/article_492489_27.html 19th March 2008 The emotions that actors are asked to display at the drop of a hat by his director are a marvel of control and skill and throughly enjoyable to watch and appreciate. I love to see them become mad, loving, playful or crazy knowing the control each of them... http://www.articlealley.com/article_488862_27.html 11th March 2008 You can be rich or you can be poor and each one of you can give your child a free gift that can be of tremendous impact on the way he turns out. That gift is your undivided attention. It will be the mortar in his foundation for stability and steady unfo... http://www.articlealley.com/article_487952_27.html 10th March 2008 When divorce first rears it's ugly head in your life, we stagger backwards from the shock of it and try every trick we know to make a level playing field appear again. 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