http://www.articlealley.com en-us editorial@articlealley.com The ability to move on after your divorce entails the letting go of the past with its emotional baggage and negative emotions. If you can accomplish this feat then the heavy burdens you have been carrying will lift and you will experience the liberation o... http://www.articlealley.com/article_1083011_35.html 15th September 2009 Going through a divorce where there are children involved is an anxiety-provoking scenario with much worry on the past of the parents as to what negative effects the divorce will have on their kids. I firmly believe that it isn’t so much the divorce bu... http://www.articlealley.com/article_1083004_35.html 15th September 2009 “If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principles, we can greet the future and the transformation we are undergoing with the understanding that we do not know enough to be pessimistic.” Hazel Henderson (Economist, writer and sy... http://www.articlealley.com/article_1008534_35.html 31st July 2009 Divorce brings out the lunatic within us. Rage, anger, depression, sadness, resentment and blame are just some of negative emotions running the show. Your emotional state is hard to pin down from one moment to the next. This is not the best state of mi... http://www.articlealley.com/article_722903_28.html 15th December 2008 Your divorce is not a failure or a mistake. People miss an incredible opportunity to learn, grow and change for the better when they view their divorce through the lens of failure. A so-called failure is actually a lesson in how not to do something an... http://www.articlealley.com/article_691490_24.html 22nd November 2008 The Rolling Stones were actually very smart. They were dead-on when they sang that you can’t always get what you want but you get what you need… that is if you are paying attention to what is being offered. When we wish, pray or hope for something,... http://www.articlealley.com/article_691482_24.html 22nd November 2008 The clients who come to me for help in letting go and moving on after their divorces discover that acceptance, a mandatory step in divorce recovery, comes in two stages. First we work to be in acceptance of the end of our marriage and then we move on t... http://www.articlealley.com/article_677962_24.html 30th October 2008 In a nutshell, expectations are premeditated resentments and disappointments. They are self-sabotaging beliefs we hold that literally set us up to feel bad and keep us stuck in the pain of our divorce. They are in direct conflict with how the world actu... http://www.articlealley.com/article_656356_24.html 06th October 2008 Divorce turns our lives upside down. It throws us into a major life transition that is colored by intense feelings and emotions that can be debilitating. I believe that fear is the main culprit that holds us back from not only healing and letting go... http://www.articlealley.com/article_639509_24.html 16th September 2008 Feeling or labeling yourself a victim of your divorce is one of the most disastrous moves you can make that will prevent you from moving forward into a new life. Victimhood renders you powerless. To create a new life after your divorce takes a person ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_625879_28.html 08th September 2008 How To Forgive after Your Divorce? Forgiveness is a miraculous act that serves as a release valve that propels us forward into a new life after divorce. To forgive is to be truly free, to be unencumbered by the past. The problem or challenge with for... http://www.articlealley.com/article_577434_35.html 16th July 2008 Your divorce decree is only step one in moving into a new life after divorce. The real divorce is the cutting of the emotional, mental and physical ties that still bind you to your ex-husband. This is the real work of divorce recovery: becoming a si... http://www.articlealley.com/article_512582_28.html 07th April 2008 There is no single more powerful stumbling block to moving beyond our divorce into a new life than the inability to accept our new reality. Acceptance is the hardest part of the divorce recovery process. Acceptance requires total honesty, courage and t... http://www.articlealley.com/article_503986_28.html 02nd April 2008 Do you remember the old adage that states there’s your side, there’s my side and then there’s the truth? If we were totally honest with ourselves, we too could see the truth of any situation. Once we accept that truth, we have the newfound fre... http://www.articlealley.com/article_498625_28.html 28th March 2008 The way to recover and thrive after divorce is simple: Until you can release the toxic emotions surrounding your divorce, it is impossible for you to move forward in life and be happy. It takes enormous commitment and effort but it can be achieved. If... http://www.articlealley.com/article_487651_28.html 10th March 2008 Initially, separation and the divorce from your spouse is an incredibly wrenching and shocking experience. This early period of huge change and loss is extremely difficult but, speaking as a survivor of divorce, I can tell you firsthand that we do surv... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465169_24.html 01st February 2008 I’m 55 years old. Really. It seems like yesterday I was bopping down the streets of Manhattan with my buddies and today I’m in bed by 10 pm. And whose body is this? Not to mention the fact that now that I’m in my 50’s, what do I want to do wi... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465160_24.html 01st February 2008 One of the highest prices we pay in life is the cost of being right. Some of us will sacrifice almost anything just in order to be the last one standing. A person who had been surrounded by their peers now sits alone, safe in the knowledge that he or ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465159_24.html 01st February 2008 Thanksgiving is the holiday that has its origin in the Puritan’s tradition of giving thanks for a good harvest. The Puritans weren’t the first in this regard. Many religious and societal traditions are based in the concept of gratitude. What al... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465155_24.html 01st February 2008 Have you ever heard the expression,” Quit banging your head against the wall!” It’s an old expression my Mom used that basically translates into: There are certain things we do that are as productive and healthy as banging your head against the ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465153_24.html 01st February 2008 I was listening to the MSNBC on the radio the other day when a feature came on entitled, ‘The Good Life’. They proceeded to discuss a $14,000 dessert being offered in Sri Lanka that included, amongst other things, an aquamarine. No kidding. Thi... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465151_24.html 01st February 2008 It may to difficult to accept but the ingredients for a happy and fulfilling relationship with your significant other or spouse rests on the foundation of acceptance. Acceptance of the reasons you fell in love in the first place. Acceptance of who that... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465149_24.html 01st February 2008 We worry about our kids: their well-being and a happy future is our main concern in life. We long for them to happy and successful at whatever they choose to do. We hope that we will be able to provide them with the help that many of us received from... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465147_24.html 01st February 2008 What happens when a sense of dissonance in our life is ignored? More likely than not, it will result in a life filled with regret and bitterness. You deserve better: you deserve to get most out of life. A good friend of mine, Pat, has been married for... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465146_24.html 01st February 2008 Contrary to a widely held belief that people do not change, I submit to you that people do change and often in dramatic, life-altering ways. I say this with full confidence as I have witnessed it happen time and time again. Creating positive chan... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465144_24.html 01st February 2008 Conscious: aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts and surroundings; aware of what one is doing. Unconscious : without awareness or cognition; occurring below the level of conscious thought; not consciously planned, realized or done; the u... http://www.articlealley.com/article_465142_24.html 31st January 2008 The rainforest in Central America taught me a wonderful lesson: if you can quiet yourself and truly focus your attention on your surroundings, you will see a multitude of things that were seemingly invisible. To view the wonders that the rainforest offer... http://www.articlealley.com/article_255802_24.html 21st January 2008 The week or so before the holidays was hell on wheels at my house. The task of raising two teenagers as a single Mom and all its attendant responsibilities creates a good deal of tension within our four walls. Any parent of a teen will understand. Too ... http://www.articlealley.com/article_251007_27.html 18th January 2008