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<html> <head> <title>Want a russian bride? Does age difference matter?</title> </head> <body> <h1>Want a russian bride? Does age difference matter?</h1> <div class="info">Author: <a href="author_1_4330.html">ira chernova</a></div><div class="body">So it happened that all dating services work with pictures. It is awful! As it is impossible to see personality behind the picture, but only appearance. So it happened that age influences our looks. So it happened that age becomes one of the major factors in choosing a partner. Age matters! And we must know all advantages and disadvantages of different age groups. 1. I am older than she is. It is the most numerous group. In nearly all international marriages spouses have disparity in 5-10-15 and even 25-35 years. I say "nearly all", because I need to tell something in the next items too :)). But still rare cases fall to their share. Someone seeks a younger woman deliberately and someone gets into such relationship by chance, like it happened to Bill: "I never began an adventure to find a woman in the FSU. It was purely chance. Sure Galina and I have a twenty year age difference, but truthfully I would never search for someone with such a difference in age. It took us four years and some growing up on her part before I decided to make the commitment. It's hard work having a long-distance relationship. I can't imagine doing this again if anything happened to our relationship. But I know I would search for someone within five or ten years of my age. Or I just wouldn't look. I wasn't looking then and probably not get re-married if it didn't work out between us. So my strong advice is to forget about the young, sweet things and concentrate on women closer to your own age group. It's probably rare to find a woman in the FSU who is twenty years younger and is ready to be a woman. A real woman, and not a post-teen FSU girl. There is a big difference...believe me, I lived the past three years with a girl who became a woman...but it took time and life...that's all. No magic...just the hard facts of life and reality in Ukraine" Bill Why do men seek young women? It is clear to all ;). But why do women agree to marry someone who is coeval with her parents? What do Russian girls think about marriages with big age differences? Our experience says: - 10-12 years: this difference is acceptable for many women. - over 15 years: some are ready to think about it. Provided the information about age is true. (We had a client who said that he was "about 40" on the stage of correspondence, then before the trip he confessed that he was "about 50" and when he came it turned out that he was over 60. The girl said no to him, because their age difference was 35 years, so the man just wasted a lot of time and money). Also we noticed the following tendency: - women before 30 choose a minimal difference. No more than 10 years. - women after 30 accept 15 years difference. - women after 40 accept 20 years and more. So, the younger a woman is, the less disposed she is to marriages with big disparity in years. There is also another aspect – mentality. "Russians get grown up early". I often meet this opinion in the Internet, but I didn't think about it before. But in point of fact it is true. She finishes secondary school at 16 and by 18 she is a second-year student of the University. Russian children generally have much more responsibility on their shoulders than Americans—taking care of siblings, grandparents, etc., and performing some of the domestic duties. So, judging by the photo you see a yesterday's teenager on the site, but after you get to know her closer, you will see the difference. If you look into a marriage book of some Russian marriage registration office, you will be astonished to see many couples that aren't older than 20! But here nobody is amazed, because it is normal for Russia. But still if you seek a "classical Russian woman" with the whole luggage of "marriage portion" in the form of family traditions and eternal values, you should seek her among women over 25, or better – over 30. A woman, like good wine, must get mature for that, and get "fermented". That's just the sort of women Michael writes about: If you're like me, a guy who grew up in the 50's and 60's (I'm 48), having this kind of wife is you will value just as much as I do. In short, the Russian Women's values are a lot like the American Women's used to be, more like our mothers' were back when we were kids. Michael If you want to hold on to a beautiful much younger woman, you must answer four questions to yourself: 1. Can I manage with jealousy? (Since your wife will surely attract glances of younger men) 2. Next you will need lots of self-confidence (how can she think highly of you, if you don't think highly of yourself?) 3. Can I respect her? (her age and her experience that will differ from yours) 4. Finally, you need to be compatible, and to truly love and trust each other (without these things, you're only kidding yourself). 2. She is older It is the smallest group. If you try and write to a woman who is older than you, she will suspect a mistake. It happened so to Mike: Hi there - i ran into something interesting while starting to correspond with a lady on your website - she seemed a bit surprised at my writing to her (she's about 1 1/2 years older then i). Is the normal thing to be that older guys only want younger women here?? I guess I must be somewhat of a novelty in that case. She wanted to clarify that she was older - and that I knew it and what my thoughts were. Kind of funny in that aspect. Mike You see? You can do the same and you will receive a similar response. You can be suspected of reading her profile inattentively or some other "deviation". :)) This kind of marriages are untypical for Russia, especially if the age difference is big. I think it can be easily explained. The man must be the head of the family, and if the woman is older, who will be the head? The model of the family shaped over the centuries is called into question. "When it comes to a woman's attitude regarding gender roles, the role of husband vs. wife, and general family values, there is no question in my mind that the RW--again, on average--is what you might call more "old fashioned" than the AW. This is a result of a thousand years of cultural conditioning. Believe me, it is very real, and is deeply grounded in the Russian psyche. The RW feels that the man is head of the family, makes most of the final decisions. She sees him as the primary breadwinner as well as a provider of stability and security for the family. She sees the role of childrearing, especially nurturing babies and toddlers, as primarily her responsibility, as well as the role of homemaker--creating a pleasant, wholesome environment for everyone to enjoy". Jim If you are seeking a woman older than you, ask yourself the following questions: 1. Can I be an interesting company for her? 2. Can I accept her age changes with time? Since it is a well-known fact that female organism wears out quicker. 3. Can I be an authoritative (trustworthy) man for her? Not only her husband and friend, but also her daddy? (As during the first years in a strange country and with poor knowledge of the language a woman is helpless like a baby). 3. I am over 50 and I am looking for my coeval. This group is bigger that the previous one, but still not so numerous as the first. :) The choice of men is also understandable here: they need not just a woman, but a friend with similar interests, who is mature, wise and intelligent. As a rule, such couples have grown up children and want to spend the rest of their lives in tender love, dedicated to each other and not burdened with the "problems of young people". It is "golden time" for love. I am looking for a woman over 50. Why do you have so few women of this kind on your site? Robert That's where the main minus lies. Women of this age find it very difficult to tear off their roots and leave everything. I've heard more than one story about women who broke off their relationships with men, because they suddenly realized that they would have to leave their elderly parents, if they are alive, or "graves of relatives". The second aspect is that many Russian women of this age don't think about marriage already. When my friend and I learnt that her 52-years old widowed father had given his profile to the dating service, we were so amazed that couldn't close our mouths. We hoped that it had been a joke! So unusual it was that people of such age were still thinking about love. We were 15 years old and we thought that at 52 life ended :). But we were children, nevertheless all adults around us shared our amazement. So let me express my answer to Robert's question in business words: 1. no demand 2. no supply In other words few women over 50 turn to marriage agencies and the profiles of those who turned can "decorate" the site for years and get no response. And still those who marry coevals build successful relationships most easily. It is a well-balanced marriage. The questions that you should ask yourself before starting such relationship, are the same as for the second group: 1. Can I accept her age changes with time? (Since it is a well-known fact that female organism wears out quicker). 2. Can I be more than a husband for her? Not only a friend, but also a daddy so that to take care of her for the first time? As you see, each group has advantages and disadvantages. And which group would you choose? What age difference do you consider to be ideal? Irina <a href="http://www.chanceforlove.com" > http://www.chanceforlove.com</a></div> <div class="source">Article Source: <a href="http://www.articlealley.com/article_70728_39.html">http://www.articlealley.com/article_70728_39.html</a></div> <div class="author"> <div class="authorOccupation">Occupation: freelancer</div> <div class="authorBio">I am 28 years old Russian female, working in dating field for almost 7 years and my specialty is dating articles for ChanceForLove Dating Service </div> <div class="authorUrl"><a href="http://www.chanceforlove.com" target="_blank">http://www.chanceforlove.com</a></div></author> </body> </html>

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Want a russian bride? Does age difference matter? Author: ira chernova So it happened that all dating services work with pictures. It is awful! As it is impossible to see personality behind the picture, but only appearance. So it happened that age influences our looks. So it happened that age becomes one of the major factors in choosing a partner. Age matters! And we must know all advantages and disadvantages of different age groups. 1. I am older than she is. It is the most numerous group. In nearly all international marriages spouses have disparity in 5-10-15 and even 25-35 years. I say "nearly all", because I need to tell something in the next items too :)). But still rare cases fall to their share. Someone seeks a younger woman deliberately and someone gets into such relationship by chance, like it happened to Bill: "I never began an adventure to find a woman in the FSU. It was purely chance. Sure Galina and I have a twenty year age difference, but truthfully I would never search for someone with such a difference in age. It took us four years and some growing up on her part before I decided to make the commitment. It's hard work having a long-distance relationship. I can't imagine doing this again if anything happened to our relationship. But I know I would search for someone within five or ten years of my age. Or I just wouldn't look. I wasn't looking then and probably not get re-married if it didn't work out between us. So my strong advice is to forget about the young, sweet things and concentrate on women closer to your own age group. It's probably rare to find a woman in the FSU who is twenty years younger and is ready to be a woman. A real woman, and not a post-teen FSU girl. There is a big difference...believe me, I lived the past three years with a girl who became a woman...but it took time and life...that's all. No magic...just the hard facts of life and reality in Ukraine" Bill Why do men seek young women? It is clear to all ;). But why do women agree to marry someone who is coeval with her parents? What do Russian girls think about marriages with big age differences? Our experience says: - 10-12 years: this difference is acceptable for many women. - over 15 years: some are ready to think about it. Provided the information about age is true. (We had a client who said that he was "about 40" on the stage of correspondence, then before the trip he confessed that he was "about 50" and when he came it turned out that he was over 60. The girl said no to him, because their age difference was 35 years, so the man just wasted a lot of time and money). Also we noticed the following tendency: - women before 30 choose a minimal difference. No more than 10 years. - women after 30 accept 15 years difference. - women after 40 accept 20 years and more. So, the younger a woman is, the less disposed she is to marriages with big disparity in years. There is also another aspect – mentality. "Russians get grown up early". I often meet this opinion in the Internet, but I didn't think about it before. But in point of fact it is true. She finishes secondary school at 16 and by 18 she is a second-year student of the University. Russian children generally have much more responsibility on their shoulders than Americans—taking care of siblings, grandparents, etc., and performing some of the domestic duties. So, judging by the photo you see a yesterday's teenager on the site, but after you get to know her closer, you will see the difference. If you look into a marriage book of some Russian marriage registration office, you will be astonished to see many couples that aren't older than 20! But here nobody is amazed, because it is normal for Russia. But still if you seek a "classical Russian woman" with the whole luggage of "marriage portion" in the form of family traditions and eternal values, you should seek her among women over 25, or better – over 30. A woman, like good wine, must get mature for that, and get "fermented". That's just the sort of women Michael writes about: If you're like me, a guy who grew up in the 50's and 60's (I'm 48), having this kind of wife is you will value just as much as I do. In short, the Russian Women's values are a lot like the American Women's used to be, more like our mothers' were back when we were kids. Michael If you want to hold on to a beautiful much younger woman, you must answer four questions to yourself: 1. Can I manage with jealousy? (Since your wife will surely attract glances of younger men) 2. Next you will need lots of self-confidence (how can she think highly of you, if you don't think highly of yourself?) 3. Can I respect her? (her age and her experience that will differ from yours) 4. Finally, you need to be compatible, and to truly love and trust each other (without these things, you're only kidding yourself). 2. She is older It is the smallest group. If you try and write to a woman who is older than you, she will suspect a mistake. It happened so to Mike: Hi there - i ran into something interesting while starting to correspond with a lady on your website - she seemed a bit surprised at my writing to her (she's about 1 1/2 years older then i). Is the normal thing to be that older guys only want younger women here?? I guess I must be somewhat of a novelty in that case. She wanted to clarify that she was older - and that I knew it and what my thoughts were. Kind of funny in that aspect. Mike You see? You can do the same and you will receive a similar response. You can be suspected of reading her profile inattentively or some other "deviation". :)) This kind of marriages are untypical for Russia, especially if the age difference is big. I think it can be easily explained. The man must be the head of the family, and if the woman is older, who will be the head? The model of the family shaped over the centuries is called into question. "When it comes to a woman's attitude regarding gender roles, the role of husband vs. wife, and general family values, there is no question in my mind that the RW--again, on average--is what you might call more "old fashioned" than the AW. This is a result of a thousand years of cultural conditioning. Believe me, it is very real, and is deeply grounded in the Russian psyche. The RW feels that the man is head of the family, makes most of the final decisions. She sees him as the primary breadwinner as well as a provider of stability and security for the family. She sees the role of childrearing, especially nurturing babies and toddlers, as primarily her responsibility, as well as the role of homemaker--creating a pleasant, wholesome environment for everyone to enjoy". Jim If you are seeking a woman older than you, ask yourself the following questions: 1. Can I be an interesting company for her? 2. Can I accept her age changes with time? Since it is a well-known fact that female organism wears out quicker. 3. Can I be an authoritative (trustworthy) man for her? Not only her husband and friend, but also her daddy? (As during the first years in a strange country and with poor knowledge of the language a woman is helpless like a baby). 3. I am over 50 and I am looking for my coeval. This group is bigger that the previous one, but still not so numerous as the first. :) The choice of men is also understandable here: they need not just a woman, but a friend with similar interests, who is mature, wise and intelligent. As a rule, such couples have grown up children and want to spend the rest of their lives in tender love, dedicated to each other and not burdened with the "problems of young people". It is "golden time" for love. I am looking for a woman over 50. Why do you have so few women of this kind on your site? Robert That's where the main minus lies. Women of this age find it very difficult to tear off their roots and leave everything. I've heard more than one story about women who broke off their relationships with men, because they suddenly realized that they would have to leave their elderly parents, if they are alive, or "graves of relatives". The second aspect is that many Russian women of this age don't think about marriage already. When my friend and I learnt that her 52-years old widowed father had given his profile to the dating service, we were so amazed that couldn't close our mouths. We hoped that it had been a joke! So unusual it was that people of such age were still thinking about love. We were 15 years old and we thought that at 52 life ended :). But we were children, nevertheless all adults around us shared our amazement. So let me express my answer to Robert's question in business words: 1. no demand 2. no supply In other words few women over 50 turn to marriage agencies and the profiles of those who turned can "decorate" the site for years and get no response. And still those who marry coevals build successful relationships most easily. It is a well-balanced marriage. The questions that you should ask yourself before starting such relationship, are the same as for the second group: 1. Can I accept her age changes with time? (Since it is a well-known fact that female organism wears out quicker). 2. Can I be more than a husband for her? Not only a friend, but also a daddy so that to take care of her for the first time? As you see, each group has advantages and disadvantages. And which group would you choose? What age difference do you consider to be ideal? Irina http://www.chanceforlove.com Article Source: http://www.articlealley.com/article_70728_39.html About the Author: I am 28 years old Russian female, working in dating field for almost 7 years and my specialty is dating articles for ChanceForLove Dating Service http://www.chanceforlove.com

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