1 Surprise for Your Spouse a Day
By: Jhong Ren | Posted: 02nd August 2007
My wife’s birthday is coming and normally her birthday celebration will last for a week and sometimes even longer.
I remembered she had 7 birthday gifts last year and she was given one gift per day till her birthday.
This year she wanted a MP3 player and I decided to buy for her as I felt that she deserved a reward for her hard work in school.
It was a surprise for her and I specially made a trip to Suntec to purchase it. I only told her when I called her on the phone.
It was meant to be a surprise. The excitement won’t be there if I had told her the purpose of the trip earlier.
Many people believed that sparks do get extinguished after wedding. I beg to differ. I prefer to see it as transformation of sparks into something even better.
After marriage, there is an additional role of a husband. There is an increase sense of committment to take extremely good care of my wife and each day I look forward to seeing her.
Each month I surprise her with a bouquet of flowers. It may not neccessarily be very expensive.
It is the thought that counts.
It is the effort of making that normal day a special one.
My wife knows that I love to drink jasmine tea. I remembered after a tiring day, she passed me a bottle, telling me that she specially bought it for me.
The tiredness seemed to have magically disappeared just because of this act of kindness.
As you can see, the surprises I am referring to are not equivalent to lavish gifts like diamond rings or Louis Vuitton bags.
Even a gentle massage by your spouse on your tired body can make coming home so comfortable. Again, it may not be the high standard of professional masseurs. But again it is the act of care and tenderness by someone you love.
One good start for couple is to understand the needs and wishes of your spouse.
For example, a need to have lunch everyday is not a wish. It is something we ought to do everyday.
A wish to eat a certain expensive restaurant can be considered as a form of luxury and it may be something that your spouse is longing for.
Thus, you may want to be sensitive to the needs and wants of your spouse. And fulfilling them in any way you can are definitely one of the many ways to bring more sparkles of romance into your afrer-wedding life.
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Jhong Ren runs My Wedding Blog- an online wedding diary that gives more than just the usual tips and advice on a daily basis. Check out http://www.romance-fire.com now and by all means leave us your comments, share some of your own wedding experiences and give us some suggestions for new resources we can recommend to our community.
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